About this Event
What if dating felt like a party?
And you actually got to know your crush?
Ever spotted someone cute across a bookstore and had absolutely no idea what to say? Ever gone to a queer singles night only to spend the evening talking to the two people you already came with? And ever tried speed dating, met twenty people, and felt like you got to know none of them?
Join queer women and nonbinary readers for a book-lined night of drinks, flirtation, and short one-on-one conversations at Love & Legends. Every round we suggest one fun and easy topic to start off with and we pair you with one person to have a short and fun conversation with.
Before the event, you fill out a 90-second profile: the profile helps us pair you and it gives the people you meet a fun and easy starting point.
Optionally, you can actually let us know who you want to meet before the event and we'll introduce you two, guaranteed if it's mutual. You'll always have 6 introductions either way. Best of all, you'll have plenty of time after the rounds to continue the conversation and keep mingling.
At the end, trade numbers or privately tell us whom you’d like to see again. At the end, trade numbers or privately tell us whom you’d like to see again.
After our sold-out Book Club Bar debut, we wanted to keep it fun with an October costume party at Love & Legends
Our Love & Legends edition will be at a cozier space with fewer tickets and refreshments included. Tickets are a little higher to reflect the refreshments, and we’d love to have you join us.
How the night goes (this event is fully hosted)
7:30 — Grab a drink, check in with one tap, and your evening unlocks. Say hi to the event host and mingle.
7:50 — Round one. Your phone shows exactly who you're meeting and where — you'll never wonder who to meet next.
8:10–9:10 — More introductions, about six minutes each, with browsing and mingling between rounds.
9:15 — Last round. By now the room is loud.
10:00 — Send likes on Asaya, or just trade numbers. Chats from tonight are free to open for 7 days.
You'll always know who to meet next. The rest feels like a party.
Before the night — three things (3 minutes, tops)
1. Buy your ticket. Enter your phone number at checkout so we can link it to your account.
2. Download Asaya on the App Store The app + event host handles the awkward parts so the night can feel like a party. No iPhone? You can also create a profile mobile web
3. Create your profile. 90 seconds. Done. Your responses help the right people find you, and for us to help you meet people who love what you love.
Your ticket will already be linked to your Asaya account -- we match your ticket to your phone number.
You help choose who you meet. Before the event, tell us who you’re most excited about, and we’ll use everyone’s choices to shape your introductions.
Then just show up!
Good to know
Can I come with a friend? Yes — grab separate tickets. You each get your own introductions, and there's open mingling all night.
What if a match doesn't show? No drama — you're paired with someone else who's free, and the host makes it easy.
Do I need to tell you who I like? Nope, everyone gets the same number of introductions, we'll introduce you based on what books you love, what you share. And there is always plenty of time to mingle outside of intros.
Do I have to be a serious reader? Not at all. One book that stayed with you is plenty.
What's the age range? This event is intended for sapphics in their 20s thru 40s. You can also set your age range in the app.
What should I bring? Yourself, your phone, and ID — it's a 21+ venue. Come as you are.
Who should come? This is a singles event for queer women and nonbinary people who feel at home in sapphic dating spaces. Cis women, trans women, and nonbinary people are explicitly welcome, including lesbian, bisexual, pansexual, and queer attendees. You do not need to use the word “sapphic” for yourself, but this event is not intended for men.
About Asaya — Asaya is meet-first dating: ticketed evenings at NYC bookstores and book bars where everyone's single and the shelves do the introducing.
http://asayameetfirst.com
More questions? The full Event FAQ lives at asaya.app/faq.html — or email [email protected] and a real person will answer.
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Event venue & nearby stays
Love & Legends Books, 667 Washington Avenue, Brooklyn, United States
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