Slow Dating

In a world that keeps enticing us to go faster and faster, we can lose connection with ourselves, and then struggle to create meaningful connection with anyone else.This happens in dating, too. The dating process can feel like a race to swipe, match, message, meet, decide.

What if you slowed it all down?

Step into the version of yourself that is fully present for the journey toward committed life partnership during this night of vibrant, playful connection with other intentional singles.

This isn't a night of sitting across from strangers and interviewing each other for the role of “potential partner.” It's a playground for connection. Dating doesn't have to feel like a job interview. Bring your authentic self, your curiosity, your playfulness.

With attachment-centered warm up practices, connection stations to inspire meaningful moments, and space to share from the heart, this evening brings pleasure and possibility to our personal and collective journeys toward deep, soul-level love.

Slow Dating invites you into a playful landscape of connection where you can laugh, create, flirt, explore, wonder, and have real conversations with other intentional singles.

Slow dating is an intentional approach to kindling romantic connection where you focus on the present moment, curiosity, and emotional safety rather than feeling pressured to check off boxes, put on masks, or play a role that doesn’t fit you. This is a space for people who are genuinely interested in building a committed partnership.

What slow dating actually feels like is:

• less performing
• less checking boxes
• less trying to impress
• less rushing toward a decision
• more curiosity
• more presence
• more embodied connection
• more opportunity to actually feel what it's like to be with someone

Slow Dating is for you if:

• You are genuinely ready to meet a life partner
• You are tired of the swipe-and-scroll dating cycle
• You want something more intentional than a typical singles mixer
• You have tried speed dating and wished for something more human
• You want to meet like-minded singles without forcing an outcome
• You want to practice communication, curiosity, and connection in real time
• You are willing to be present, playful, and a little bit vulnerable

You won't be thrown into a room full of strangers and left to figure it out on your own.

We'll guide you through a thoughtfully designed evening that moves from arrival → warming up → playful connection → deeper exploration → closing.

Through the evening, you'll:

• Be guided by a trio of heart-centered intimacy facilitators
• Arrive early to mix, mingle, and sip on adaptogenic elixirs
• Begin with an opening circle and guided group warm-ups to help you drop into the present moment
• Meet other intentional singles through facilitated connection experiences and mini "slow dates"
• Explore a variety of playful connection stations designed around conversation, creativity, embodiment, curiosity, and attraction
• Practice the intricacies and importance of embodied consent
• Have opportunities to laugh, play, flirt, create, move, and share from the heart
• Learn more about relationship styles and your own patterns of relating
• Have space to follow your curiosity and attraction while also knowing that no particular outcome is expected
• Gather together at the end to reflect, connect, and close the evening

About the Connection Stations

Throughout the evening, you'll have opportunities to explore a playful mix of conversation, creativity, embodiment, and connection. Stations may include guided conversation, values exploration, creative play, movement, eye contact, touch exploration, and other invitations to experience what it feels like to connect in the present moment with a new person.

A few examples we're dreaming up: clay shaping, connection cards, playful poetry, eye contact, embodied practices, and more. The final lineup is still taking shape!

Nope. Slow Dating is intentionally designed as an alternative to speed dating. Rather than moving through a series of rapid-fire dates and trying to decide who makes the cut, you'll have opportunities to slow down, get present, and experience genuine connection through conversation, play, creativity, and embodiment.

You don't need to have a specific timeline or life plan, but you should be genuinely interested in finding a committed life partner. Whether or not children or marriage are part of that vision is entirely up to you.

You're in good company. You won't be expected to walk into the room and work the crowd on your own. The evening is facilitated from beginning to end, with guided warm-ups, structured connection experiences, and plenty of invitations to participate at your own pace.

No. Consent is central to this experience. Some stations may include optional invitations for embodied or touch-based connection, but you are always welcome to say no, choose another activity, or simply observe.

That's okay. The goal isn't to force a match. We're creating opportunities to practice being present, curious, playful, and authentic with other people, and sometimes meaningful connection is the unexpected gift.

Come dressed for comfort, movement, and play. Wear something that makes you feel like yourself. You are invited to bring a little color, drama, or flirtation if that feels fun for you.

Yes. This is an intentionally sober space designed to keep the focus on presence, connection, and the people in the room. Adaptogenic mocktails will be served.

This event is 18+, and we welcome singles across the adult age spectrum. We're intentionally creating a space where people can meet across decades and learn from one another.

This event is designed primarily for women-seeking-men and men-seeking-women. If you are looking for a rainbow connection, please reach out to us at [email protected] as we’d love to know if there is enough interest in creating a Queer Slow Date in the future.

Registration: Because we're creating a room of people who are genuinely ready for partnership, all participants will complete a brief registration questionnaire before attending.

Volunteer Positions: The Volunteer Application Form will be released soon!

This event is for ages 18+. Past that, we welcome singles of all ages, as we are here to learn from and with each other in this slow dating process.

Can't make it to this event, but want to stay in the loop about ongoing offerings to build real, transformational intimacy in your life? to stay in the know about future Slow Dating events.

ABOUT THE FACILITATORS

is a somatic therapist, artist, and permission-giver. She weaves the art of communication, creative expression, sensuality, archetype, and movement as pathways to greater intimacy, desire, and inner aliveness. Crista studied somatic psychotherapy at Naropa University and has over a decade of experience leading heart-centered intimacy events. A life-long Coloradoan, she is often found meandering in the mountains with her beloved hound dog, flowing on the dance floor, or moonlighting as a typewriter poet.

is based in Boulder, CO and online for over a decade. He is a Webster Certified Whole Family and Animal Chiropractor, a Network Spinal Analysis practitioner trained by Dr. Donny Epstein, and a teacher with the Luminous Awareness Institute. His work weaves chiropractic science, energy work, somatic awareness, and contemplative practice into an approach that meets the body at every level. Physical, energetic, spiritual, and emotional.

is a Relationship Guide and Family Constellation Facilitator and mother based in Boulder, Colorado and online worldwide. She holds a Master's in Human Development and Cognitive Sciences from the University of Colorado, with a focus in family counseling. She has trained for four years at the Luminous Awareness Institute in somatic healing and Internal Family Systems, for three years in Family Constellation work, and is a certified Death Doula and Death Educator through the Conscious Dying Institute.
We acknowledge that our work as facilitators is shaped by our personal experience, privilege, and cultural lens. We are open to learning and growth around how we can best create an inclusive event space.

“So impacted. Feel like I have more tools and understandings on how to hold myself in my authentic turn ons and how to unpattern and repattern societal conditioning around beauty.” -Previous attendee of Crista's

“I felt really seen and held by the facilitators. So much wisdom and practical applications. I really loved the way we were invited to land in our body and permissioned to feel. They created a great container.” -Previous attendee of Crista's
"Working with Ra was a transformative experience. Her ability to tap into the wisdom of my ancestors and guide me through deep healing has been life changing. I feel a profound sense of connection to my lineage and a newfound clarity in my path." -K.

"Working with Dr. Dylan and Ra together has been unlike anything else I have experienced. They see the whole field. I left each session feeling more myself." -Jessie M.

"The couples workshop [with Ra and Dylan] cracked something open in us that years of therapy had not touched. Something shifted in the room and it has stayed shifted." -David and Carla

Contact us at [email protected] we'll be happy to chat.

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Avalon Ballroom, 6185 Arapahoe Rd, Boulder, United States

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