Holding It, Needing It, Desiring It – An Online Book Reading and Live Q&A with Gerald Crawford
Beyond Wanting. Beyond Needing. Into Truly Being.
What do we hold on to? What do we believe we need? And what is it that we truly desire?
Join author Gerald Crawford for a special online book reading and interactive discussion exploring the deeper wisdom behind Holding It, Needing It, Desiring It.
This is more than a book reading. It is an opportunity to explore the thoughts, emotions, attachments, expectations and desires that influence how we live, how we relate to others, and how we understand ourselves.
Through selected readings and open conversation, Gerald will unpack the ideas behind the book, helping participants reflect on the difference between what we hold on to, what we think we need, what we desire, and what may ultimately bring us a deeper sense of understanding and fulfilment.
What to Expect
- Live Book Reading: Discover selected passages and key concepts from Holding It, Needing It, Desiring It.
- Wisdom and Reflection: Explore the deeper meaning behind holding on, needing, wanting and desiring.
- Live Q&A Session: Ask Gerald questions and engage directly with the ideas presented in the book.
- Open Discussion: Share perspectives, explore different interpretations and connect the concepts to everyday life.
- A Journey of Understanding: Take away fresh insights to reflect on long after the event.
About the Author – Gerald Crawford
Gerald Crawford is an author, certified clinical hypnosis practitioner, therapist, healer, educator and guide. His work focuses on human behaviour, emotional understanding, personal development, healing and the journey towards greater self-awareness.
Through his books and educational work, Gerald invites people to look beyond surface-level answers, question familiar patterns and develop a deeper understanding of themselves and their relationships with others.
With Holding It, Needing It, Desiring It, he opens a conversation about the things we hold on to, the things we believe we cannot live without, and the deeper journey towards understanding who we are beyond our wants and needs.
Join Us Online Every Month
This is part of a monthly online book-reading series running over the next 12 months. Each session will offer an opportunity to explore the book’s concepts, hear selected readings, ask questions and participate in meaningful discussion with Gerald.
Whether you have already read the book, are discovering it for the first time, or simply want to explore its ideas, you are welcome.
Come with your questions. Leave with something to reflect on.
Event format: Online
Frequency: Monthly, over 12 months
Featuring: Live book reading, author discussion and audience Q&A
Reserve your place and join Gerald Crawford for a thoughtful exploration of holding, needing, desiring and the deeper meaning of being.
HOLDING IT, NEEDING IT, DESIRING IT
Ten Little Kernels of Wisdom for a Deeper Understanding of Yourself
Beyond Wanting. Beyond Needing. Into Truly Being.
There are moments in life when a single thought can change the way we see ourselves, our relationships, our desires, and the world around us. Sometimes, wisdom does not arrive as a grand revelation. Sometimes, it arrives as a small seed planted in the mind, waiting for us to recognise its meaning.
Holding It, Needing It, Desiring It by Gerald Crawford invites us to look more closely at the things we hold on to, the things we believe we need, and the things we desire. It encourages us to explore the difference between possessing something, depending on something, wanting something, and discovering who we are beyond those experiences.
Here are ten little kernels of wisdom inspired by the central themes of the book. Each one offers a moment to pause, reflect, and perhaps see life a little differently.
1. The Things We Hold May Also Hold Us
Slogan: Sometimes, what you refuse to release is what prevents you from moving forward.
45-word description:
We often believe that holding on protects us from loss, uncertainty, and change. Yet some things we carry become invisible burdens. Freedom begins when we recognise what still serves us, what no longer belongs, and what we are finally ready to release with understanding and compassion.
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2. Needing Something Does Not Define Who You Are
Slogan: You can need support without surrendering your sense of self.
45-word description:
Human beings need connection, belonging, safety, and understanding. These needs are not weaknesses. The challenge begins when we believe that someone or something must fulfil them before we can feel worthy. Recognising our needs allows us to honour them without allowing them to define our entire identity.
Hashtags: #GeraldCrawford #HoldingItNeedingItDesiringIt #HumanNeeds #SelfWorth #EmotionalAwareness #HealthyRelationships #Wisdom
3. Desire Is a Messenger, Not a Master
Slogan: Listen to what you desire, but do not let it decide who you become.
45-word description:
Desire can reveal our dreams, ambitions, curiosity, and longing for a different life. But not every desire requires action, and not every attraction leads to fulfilment. When we learn to observe our desires without automatically obeying them, we create space for conscious decisions and meaningful direction.
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4. Possession Is Not the Same as Fulfilment
Slogan: Having more does not necessarily mean experiencing more.
45-word description:
We can accumulate possessions, achievements, relationships, and experiences while still feeling something is missing. Fulfilment is not simply measured by what we own or acquire. It grows when we understand what genuinely matters, appreciate what is present, and develop a deeper relationship with ourselves and life.
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5. Sometimes We Hold On Because We Fear the Empty Space
Slogan: The space left behind may be where something new begins.
45-word description:
Letting go can feel frightening because it creates uncertainty. We may hold on to familiar situations, outdated beliefs, or unfulfilling relationships simply because the alternative is unknown. Yet empty space is not always a sign of loss. Sometimes, it is an invitation to rediscover ourselves.
Hashtags: #GeraldCrawford #HoldingItNeedingItDesiringIt #LettingGo #Courage #NewBeginnings #SelfDiscovery #Wisdom
6. Your Worth Is Not Measured by What You Receive
Slogan: You are valuable before anyone validates you.
45-word description:
When we depend entirely on approval, attention, affection, or recognition, our sense of worth becomes vulnerable to other people’s choices. Genuine self-worth develops when we recognise our humanity beyond external responses. We can appreciate love and encouragement without making them the conditions required to feel valuable.
Hashtags: #GeraldCrawford #HoldingItNeedingItDesiringIt #SelfWorth #SelfAcceptance #EmotionalIntelligence #Authenticity #Wisdom
7. Wanting Is Not the Same as Needing
Slogan: Learn to distinguish what enriches your life from what you believe you cannot live without.
45-word description:
Our wants and needs can become tangled until every desire feels essential. By separating genuine needs from preferences, expectations, and impulses, we gain clarity over our choices. This understanding helps us make wiser decisions, reduce unnecessary pressure, and appreciate what we already have without abandoning our aspirations.
Hashtags: #GeraldCrawford #HoldingItNeedingItDesiringIt #NeedsAndWants #SelfAwareness #ConsciousChoices #PersonalGrowth #Wisdom
8. You Cannot Find Lasting Peace by Controlling Everything
Slogan: Peace grows when you recognise what belongs to you and what does not.
45-word description:
The desire to control people, circumstances, and outcomes often grows from uncertainty. Although planning and responsibility matter, life will always contain elements beyond our influence. Learning to distinguish between what we can change and what we must accept helps us respond with greater balance, patience, and understanding.
Hashtags: #GeraldCrawford #HoldingItNeedingItDesiringIt #InnerPeace #Acceptance #EmotionalFreedom #MindfulLiving #Wisdom
9. The Relationship You Have with Yourself Shapes What You Seek from Others
Slogan: Understand your inner world before expecting someone else to complete it.
45-word description:
Our relationships can reveal the needs, fears, expectations, and longings we carry within ourselves. When we understand these inner patterns, we become better equipped to connect without demanding that another person repair every wound or satisfy every uncertainty. Healthy connection begins with awareness, responsibility, and mutual respect.
Hashtags: #GeraldCrawford #HoldingItNeedingItDesiringIt #Relationships #SelfUnderstanding #EmotionalAwareness #HealthyConnection #Wisdom
10. Beyond Holding, Needing, and Desiring Lies the Opportunity to Simply Be
Slogan: You are more than what you possess, what you lack, or what you long for.
45-word description:
Beneath our possessions, needs, ambitions, and desires lies the person experiencing them all. Exploring this deeper dimension invites us to move beyond defining ourselves through what we have or hope to acquire. We begin to discover the possibility of living with greater awareness, authenticity, presence, and freedom.
Hashtags: #GeraldCrawford #HoldingItNeedingItDesiringIt #SelfDiscovery #Consciousness #AuthenticLiving #InnerFreedom #Wisdom
A Final Thought
Perhaps the most important question is not simply, What am I holding? What do I need? What do I desire?
Perhaps the deeper question is:
Who am I when I stop defining myself by the answers?
The journey towards understanding ourselves begins with curiosity. It grows through awareness and deepens when we become willing to question the beliefs, attachments, and expectations that shape our lives.
These ten kernels of wisdom are invitations to reflect rather than instructions to follow blindly. Take the one that speaks to you today. Sit with it. Explore what it means in your own life.
You may discover that the smallest shift in understanding can open the door to a much greater transformation.
Holding It, Needing It, Desiring It
Beyond Wanting. Beyond Needing. Into Truly Being.
By Gerald Crawford
Discover the book. Explore the questions. Begin your journey inward.
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