Too tired for Self-care

Self-Care Fatigue: Embracing the Pause and Redefining Rest

In a world where the pressure to “do self-care” is everywhere, it’s easy to feel overwhelmed and even exhausted by the constant messaging. What happens when you feel too tired to even take a bath, can’t afford a gym membership, or simply feel too worn out to care for yourself in the ways we're told we "should"?

This group is a safe space to come together and unpack the idea of self-care, especially when it feels like yet another thing to do on an already long to-do list. We’ll reflect on the frustration of trying to meet everyone’s expectations of what self-care should look like, and explore the feelings of burnout that come with it. We'll also dig deeper into what self-care really means to each of us—whether that’s not doing anything at all, finding small moments of rest, or learning to forgive ourselves when we can’t do it all. Self-care is not a one-size-fits-all prescription, and it’s time to release the pressure to conform to an ideal.

Together, we will explore the deeper meaning of self-care—not as a performance or expectation, but as an act of kindness and compassion toward ourselves. In this space, we will:

• Reflect on how the constant push for self-care can leave us feeling drained rather than restored, and share our frustrations without judgment.
• Release the idea that self-care always looks like luxury or extravagance. We’ll redefine it in ways that feel attainable and real—whether that’s through stillness, simplicity, or surrender.
• Connect with the essence of rest, honoring that true rejuvenation comes not from doing more, but from allowing ourselves to be.
• Practice small acts of self-care together, creating space for rest and rejuvenation without the pressure to “perform” or do it perfectly.

This gathering is a gentle invitation to let go of what no longer serves us in the realm of self-care and to find solace in the quiet moments of release. Come as you are, with your tiredness and your frustration, and together we will create a space to reconnect, reflect, and redefine what self-care truly means. A place where it’s okay to not have it all figured out—and where the simple act of being together is enough to heal.

About the Facilitator

Tiff Castillo (She/They) Born and raised in New Jersey, I am a Bay Area transplant that is now happily living in Oakland with my two cats Sam and Papaya, dog Milo, and fiancé Blaire. I am a first-generation Honduran-American, and love to spend time outside in nature, cooking with friends, and making art. I am also deeply passionate about mutual aid, abolition, harm reduction, community building, and restorative justice. As a Master in Public Health and Master in Social Welfare candidate at UC Berkeley, my focus has been working with marginalized communities of color, and looking at intergenerational trauma as well as race/class/gender as social determinants of health.

Event Venue & Nearby Stays

Center For Empowering Refugees and Immigrants (CERI), 554 Grand Avenue, Oakland, United States