The Messy Middle: Boundaries Beyond Full Contact or No Contact

There is a conversation happening everywhere right now about boundaries.

"Cut toxic people off."

"Protect your peace."

"Go no contact."

But what about the relationships and boundaries that don't fit neatly into those conversations?

The women who love their parents and are also deeply hurt by them.

The women carrying guilt, grief, disappointment, resentment, compassion, and hope all at the same time.

The women staring at a text message for hours.

Rehearsing conversations in the shower.

Feeling relief when family plans get canceled and then feeling guilty for that relief.

The women who don't want full contact anymore... but don't necessarily want no contact either. Or maybe being on the other side of no contact feels so lonely and weird and messy because your family tree or line doesn't fit in a social media post every holiday.

This workshop is for the messy middle.

Together we'll explore the nuanced space between self-abandonment and cutting people off. You'll learn how your nervous system impacts boundaries, why conflict feels so difficult, and how to begin creating relationships that honor both your heart and your truth.

This is not a workshop about becoming harder.

This is not a workshop about blaming your parents.

This is not a workshop about finding the perfect script or boundary.

This is a workshop about learning how to stay connected to yourself.

You'll leave with language, practical tools, and a completely different framework for understanding boundaries, family dynamics, and the role your nervous system plays in both.

If you've ever thought:

• "I love them, but this isn't working."
• "I don't know if I'm overreacting or underreacting."
• "I feel guilty every time I try to create space."
• "I don't want to cut them off, but I can't keep doing this."
• "I don't even know what I need anymore."

You're in the right place.

Understand the hidden family roles, nervous system patterns, and emotional dynamics that keep you stuck in cycles of guilt, resentment, over-functioning, and people-pleasing.

Learn why boundaries aren't punishment, ultimatums, or walls—and how to create appropriate distance without abandoning yourself or the relationship.

Explore practical options for creating healthier relationships that don't require all-or-nothing thinking.

Learn simple practices to help you identify your own yes, no, and maybe—so your boundaries come from clarity instead of reactivity.

✔ You feel responsible for other people's emotions.

✔ You struggle with guilt when setting boundaries.

✔ You have a complicated relationship with a parent or family member.

✔ You find yourself constantly overthinking interactions after or before they happen.

✔ You're exhausted from carrying invisible emotional labor.

✔ You want healthier relationships without becoming cold or disconnected.

✔ You've done therapy, personal growth, or healing work and still feel stuck in these family dynamics.

• A new way to understand family boundaries
• Language for experiences you've struggled to explain
• Nervous system tools you can immediately use
• Greater clarity around what is yours and what isn't
• More compassion for yourself
• A practical next step for your specific situation

Most importantly...

You'll leave knowing you're not the only one living in this gray area.

You do not have to choose between self-abandonment and cutting people off.

There is another way.

Together we'll explore what it looks like to build a strong spine, a soft heart, and boundaries that are alive, flexible, and rooted in truth.

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