The Fine Art of Talking To Yourself (Conversation #7 - Habits)

Learn how habits are formed, why they’re useful, when they become dysfunctional — and how to replace old habits at will by meeting the same core needs with new, more adaptive patterns.
(Note: the event is in English)

Conversation #7: Habits & the Habitat of Habits — Replacing Patterns with Agency
● Understand what habits really are (behavioral + attentional + emotional habits)
● Learn how habits form through cue → routine → reward loops (and why the brain prefers automation)
● Discover why habits are adaptive — and how they become costly or compulsive
● Practice tools to replace old habits by designing a better “habit habitat” (external + internal)

Join Scorselo, coach-psychologist (scorselo.com), and Khirug, coach-neuroscientist (triunitymethod.com), for the seventh event in The Fine Art of Talking to Yourself series.

This time, we turn to Habits — the hidden architecture of everyday life. Much of what we call “willpower” is simply the collision between an old habit’s habitat and a new intention with no habitat. Habits are not just repeated actions: they are need-solutions and attention patterns that run automatically, especially under stress, fatigue, boredom, or social pressure.

The key shift we’ll explore: instead of fighting a habit as a moral failure, learn to read it as data — what need is it meeting, and can that need be satisfied with a cheaper, more pleasurable behavior?

How habits are formed
How the brain turns repeated actions (and attention patterns) into automated programs to save energy.

Why habits are useful
Why automation is essential — and why “no habits” would be cognitive chaos.

When habits become dysfunctional
How adaptive routines turn into costly patterns: compulsive scrolling, rumination, overchecking, avoidance, emotional eating, perfectionism, or shutdown.

How to replace habits at will
A practical method:

• identify the cue
• name the core need
• find a cheaper, more pleasurable substitute
• design the external and internal habitat so the new habit wins by default

In a world filled with distraction, stimulation, and constant pressure, many of our habits are no longer chosen — they are triggered. We end up living inside routines we didn’t design: attention goes where it always goes; the same coping loops repeat; the same “tomorrow I’ll change” story returns.

Yet habits are not destiny. They are trainable. With the right understanding and a few concrete tools, you can reshape your behavior by reshaping:

• your environment (space and time)
• your physiological state (arousal, breath, posture)
• your inner dialogue (the prompts that either sabotage or support change)

This evening helps you understand how habits are built, why they persist, and how to replace them without relying on shame or brute discipline. You’ll learn to turn habit change into an agency practice — and make new habits feel like something that wants to happen.

Prior to the event, all participants are invited to take part anonymously in a short ArtOfThinking.ai voice reflection exercise.

Using the invitation code you will receive after registration, you can record a one-minute spontaneous reflection on your current habit landscape — no preparation needed.

Suggested prompt (you can use this or speak freely):
“Which habit currently runs me, what need does it meet, and what would be a cheaper, more pleasurable way to meet the same need?”

Your anonymous reflections will be synthesized by AI and shared during the event as a collective mirror of how we experience habits in daily life.
This is optional, but it offers a clear, insightful glimpse into how technology can support deeper self-awareness and behavioral change.

● Socratic-style discussion — clear, relatable insights from psychology and neuroscience
● Hands-on participation — short experiential practices and group reflection
● Small group setting — limited to 40 participants for a personal, interactive atmosphere

Date: March 24, 2026
Duration: 2 hours (doors open at 18:45, the talk starts at 19:00)
Event language: English

Don’t miss this opportunity to understand your habits as need-solutions, redesign the habitat that keeps them alive, and learn how to replace old patterns with new ones that are simpler, cheaper, and more adaptive.

Event Venue & Nearby Stays

White Buoy, 201 Kleine Wittenburgerstraat, Amsterdam, Netherlands

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