Men’s Circle: Real Conversations

Men’s Circle: Real Conversations
In a society where men are expected to always have it together, this space is for being honest, not perfect.

This is a free offering but there’s the option to stay for an amazing plant-based dinner ($15). There’s no pressure to join, but sitting down to eat together is a simple, powerful way to deepen the sense of connection. Andre & Sri Jiva aren’t running this circle for profit and they are genuinely invested in creating real, meaningful spaces for men to connect.

The Men’s Circle is a gathering where men are able to connect in a safe, supportive space to share experiences, express emotions, and foster personal growth. Free from societal expectations of stoicism or self-sufficiency. Through open sharing and mutual support, participants are empowered to build resilience, self-reflection, and a stronger sense of identity and purpose.

Structure of the Circle

• Gathering in a Circle: Participants sit in a circle to symbolize equality and unity.A short meditation or moment of silence may be included to help everyone arrive and connect.
• Talking Object: A sharing stick or object is placed in the center. Only the personholding the object may speak, ensuring uninterrupted sharing.
• Open Sharing: Anyone may choose to share while holding the object. Sharing is op-tional, and passing is always respected.
• Active Listening: While one person shares, others listen attentively without speaking,interrupting, or offering advice. The focus is on witnessing and being present.
• No Judgments or Advice: Participants refrain from judging or offering unsolicitedadvice, creating a safe space for authentic expression.
• Closing: The circle may conclude with a group reflection, a moment of gratitude, or a simple acknowledgment of the shared experience.

Circle Agreements

• Supportive Environment: We are here to uplift and support one another, fosteringtrust and brotherhood.
• Focus on the Present: Share whats alive for you now, focusing on your emotions and experiences to deepen emotional awareness.
• Use "I" Statements: Speak from your personal perspective using "I" statements topromote authenticity and responsibility. Avoid generalizations like "we" or "us."
• No Judgment or fixing: Refrain from judging others sharing or offering unsolicitedadvice, ensuring a safe and non-critical space.
• Confidentiality: What is shared in the circle stays in the circle. You may discuss your own experience outside the group, but keep others details private.

What’s on the menu?

• Creamy Farfalle Pasta with Plant-Based Bacon
• Toasted Bruschetta with “Cheese”, Tomato and Parsley
• Fresh Salad with Balsamic Vinegar
• Berry Vanilla Muffins with Whipped Cream

Andre has been immersed in men’s work since the age of 13, when he first experienced a rite of passage in Golden Bay. That formative experience sparked a lifelong connection to circle work, which he later deepened by returning as a mentor. A multi-instrumental musician, poet, and pranayama (breathwork) facilitator, Andre also brings his passion for ecstatic dance, philosophy, and authentic connection into his offerings. He is deeply inspired by the question of what it means to be human—how we can more fully experience our aliveness, our depth, and reconnecting with the beauty of life together.

Since childhood, Sri Jiva has been fascinated by meaning, purpose, and authentic life fulfilment. This, among other things, led him to join a monastery at the age of 19. After years of monastic training, he chose to marry and pursue a career. He felt called to use his monastic experience to help others understand themselves, and to find wisdom, meaning, and purpose in their own lives. Inspired by this calling, he went to university to study counselling. Now, Sri Jiva and his wife live near Wellington, where he works with a small team of counsellors, supporting clients individually and in groups.

Event Venue & Nearby Stays

Bhakti Lounge Wellington, 175 Vivian Street, Wellington, New Zealand