HMU Academy: Soft Domination

Tue Jun 23 2026 at 07:30 pm to 09:30 pm UTC-04:00

120 Walker St floor 5 | New York

Hit Me Up
Publisher/HostHit Me Up
HMU Academy: Soft Domination Explore the softer side of domination, refine your skills and develop your style
About this Event

This Hit Me Up event is open to the public, 21+.


About the Class

Soft Doms, Pleasure Doms, 24/7 Doms, tops, and bratty bottoms. Language will continue to evolve as we find new words to describe ourselves and our interests but it's important to remember that these words mean something different to everyone. There is no ONE way to be a soft dom, so what works for you and your partner?
Expect a lecture based class that goes well beyond the basic definitions and teaches you how to use your skills.
In this class you will learn...


  • Why soft domination exists
  • How to find a persona that still has YOU at its core instead of pretending to be something you're not
  • How to fall out of the common trope or instinct that Dominant = mean, intense, or pain (aka the hard dom)
  • How to relax in moments of tension
  • The role of novelty and how it can sometimes confuse us from what we actually enjoy
  • The FOUR types of motivations and how it can help influence our soft domination style
  • How to ease into play, learn about your likes, and where to start as a beginner


About Your Instructor

Lola Jean is a sex educator and world record holder for volume squirting. She teaches class both online and in person and provides online coaching. Follow her at @lolajeandotcom.



FAQs

FAQ: what should I bring?

Yourself!

FAQ: any skill pre-requisites? (i.e., is this for beginners, advanced, everyone?)

all levels will be able to learn something new in this class

FAQ: can I attend solo, or do I need to come with a partner?

you can attend solo or with your crew



Price Transparency
The full fee for this workshop reflects the true costs of running the event, including supplies and compensating facilitators for their labor. If you are able to afford a full price ticket without experiencing financial hardship, please choose this option. Those who cannot afford a full fee ticket are welcome to use our discount EQUITY26 at checkout.



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✨Location: 120 Walker St in Lower Manhattan. The space has an elevator. Please email [email protected] if you need any accessibility accommodations.

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Event Venue

120 Walker St floor 5, 120 Walker Street, New York, United States

Tickets

USD 39.02

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