Authentic Relating Games Night

Think back to your favorite recent conversation. What did you enjoy about it?

The topic?
The person?
The rhythm?

I bet that regardless of any of this, what you really appreciated was that you felt heard. Whether it's your opinion or your emotion, we all crave that feeling of being seen, heard, understood. That we matter.

Unfortunately it happens too rarely. Even our friends, wanting to share their latest discovery, can be so focused on what they want to say that you might even wonder if they even notice you at all.

But here's the secret: This is a skill that can be learned. You can have better relationships with your friends, your colleagues, even the person making your coffee. You may not want to strike up a conversation with the person in line at Starbucks, but you can. It only takes a willingness to step just a bit outside of your comfort zone.

I've been on a mission to be better at connecting ever since realizing that I could be better. As a software engineer, I was more confortable with computers than humans. Networking situations were either boring or awkward. I would bail on events I was invited to because I dreaded meeting new people.

I remember the first event I attended when I lived in Montreal back in 2018. I didn't know anyone and felt uncomfortable at being there. So I sat in the circle and was quiet, waiting for the event to start. I still remember being intimidated by these people who seemed to have their own language and even hand signals. But with simple prompts to get us started (some as simple as "Being here with you, I notice ..."), I was introduced to a whole new way of connecting. I discovered some things about me:

• I spent a lot effort trying to figure out what the other person was thinking about
• And figuring out what I should say to get them to like me
• And trying to analyze their reaction to whatever I did say.
• And doing this over and over and becoming stuck because I worried about whatever I said might cause problems, and then not saying anything would cause problems, and how do I get out of here!!!

Phew!

I would like to say that it was an overnight change, but it took years to let go of old patterns. And I'm still learning! Getting better at really being present, at sharing my own inner world, of being curious intead of merely acting like I understand. And I've studied at ART International, and this year will be a certified Authentic Relating facilitator. But one thing I absolutely know:

THIS CAN BE TAUGHT.

If I, a low self-esteem software programmer who was called into the manager's office (and not just once) and scolded for how I related to others ... if I can learn how to connect and, you know, how to BE HUMAN, so can you.

Right away, I was hooked. I've been practicing, learning, and living Authentic Relating for 8 years now. I have facilitated workshops all around the world. I have experienced in myself and witnessed in others how these practices can improve lives.

• My relationship with my parents is better because.
• I've played these games on first dates that turned into seconds, and thirds, ...
• I can actually have conversations on Facebook with people I disagree with and end up actually learning something!

Of course this is only the beginning. No matter how hopelessly awkward or already the center of attention, Authentic Relating can help you have deeper, more nourishing connections.

There is a bit of getting settled, and a bit of teaching. But most of the time is spent connecting with others, either in pairs or larger groups. Nearly all of my friends back in the day where those I met at Authentic Relating! I have not found a better, faster way of creating connection. I hope you agree.

Use the code SNACKS to get $3 off and commit to bringing snacks to share during the break!

There are a limited number of early bird tickets available, so reserve your spot today!

Event Venue & Nearby Stays

Casa de Luz Village, 1701 Toomey Road, Austin, United States