Household Labor Workshop for Couples: Conflict Patterns and the Fair Play Method

Mon, 27 Oct, 2025 at 05:30 pm UTC-05:00

104 W 9th St, Kansas City, MO 64105-1709, United States | Kansas City

Secure Counseling Clinic
Publisher/HostSecure Counseling Clinic
Household Labor Workshop for Couples: Conflict Patterns and the Fair Play Method
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SPACE IS LIMITED. An in-depth exploration and hands-on experiential learning of emotional and mental load that shows up in your household, facilitated by Certified Fair Play Facilitator, Coach and professional counselor Vanessa Knight. This workshop is ideal for couples to attend together.
Think of your household as a corporation. Who is HR? Who is the CFO? Who are the employees and what are their roles? Who are the project manager for each area of functioning (dining, hospitality, sanitation, PR, etc)? What time do you have your staff meeting and what do you discuss? How are major decisions made about expansion, spending, saving, travel, internal personnel problems? You and your partner are co-owners of a business -- your home. This workshop is about blending the romantic bond and affection you have for each other with the practical day-to-day management
Vanessa Knight, LCPC/LPC, NCC, NCMHC
Vanessa Knight, LCPC/LPC, NCC, NCMHC
issues that create tension, confusion and resentment. Neither of you is the bad guy... you need a better system.

Begin balancing the emotional, mental and physical load in your household by spending an evening with your partner and a professional counselor, Certified Fair Play Facilitator, and Certified Emotionally-Focused Couples Therapist Vanessa Knight. Dinner add-ons from a locally-owned downtown KC restaurant are available in the registration for advanced purchase. Guest parking is available in building lot off of 8th Street between Wyandotte and Baltimore Streets (map pin provided via email).


Share an evening of learning about:
identifying and slowing down conflict patterns in romantic attachment relationships (Emotionally-
Focused Couples work, Hold Me Tight by Sue Johnson, PhD)
recognizing defensive reactions you and your partner have when hearing feedback loops
understanding brief historical and social norms that shape household norms that lead to lack of balanced labor
and exploring the Fair Play Method (FPM) for managing household labor, based on the bestselling book Fair Play by Eve Rodsky. This method is the first attempt at naming and redistributing household labor
respectfully and thoroughly, and modifications/customizations are easy once you understand the foundational concepts developed by the attorney-author.
Additional 1:1 support after the intensive is always an option if you and your partner get stuck or want to continue the journey in customized sessions exclusively for your household.
Here's the plan:
Optionally arrive early
Monday evening at 5:00-5:30 if you'd like to settle in.
Officially begins at 5:30. We will cover communication patterns in conflict that drive negative emotion and keep the Method from getting started in the first place, as well as a basic introduction to the "why, when, and how" of the Fair Play Method. Later evening content is all about implementing the FPM, running into snaffoos and fails, fixing them, and maintaining connection and respectful, loving communication while working through the realities you face together.
Babes-in-arms welcome (pre-crawlers), but no kids please. We'd like you to have a night off and be able to

focus on the content! Often part of the difficulty couples face when trying to discuss household labor is interruptions from children, other obligations, and the setting (the actual house). This evening is an opportunity to step aside from all three interruptions.
Note about Diversity:
This workshop is for couples and addresses domestic equity in the home, with or without kids. Because of historical societal norms, these issues will most often show up in heterosexual relationships between CIS-gendered men and women. However, the balance of mental, emotional, and physical labor is applicable to corporate environments, chore management with kids, LGBTQAI+ couples+, groups of volunteers, and any other relationships that require equitable division of labor. This workshop will focus on traditional gender norms and balance in hetero couples. Others are welcome to attend with this understanding! All are welcome.
Curious how cost is established?
Clinician calculates the number of professional hours x normal hourly rate, then divides it by the anticipated number of couples participating in workshop to create a reduced hourly fee that is shared by several couples together to create a more cost-effective option for couples than full therapy rates because it is shared (for example, $25/hour rather than $200/hour for private sessions). Clinician takes time away from regular session hours and replaces it with workshop hours that reach households that need intensive help and a cost-effective option while still working with a qualified professional. Cost-sharing for a clinician’s time in this way allows you to have professional attention, get healthy conversation started with your partner with an onsite professional, learn and absorb new ideas, and hear other households stories and solutions to get more brainstorms! We cover our meals with a group order or brown bag it!
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