HMU Academy: Feeling into Communication

An experiential workshop inspired by the Wheel of Consent®
Do you know *how* to get in touch with what you want? Do you know how to ignore the scripts that tell you what you’re supposed to want and instead of tuning into what you *really* want?
When it comes to scene negotiations, many of us get stuck *thinking* about what we want instead of *feeling into* what we want. Sometimes a rift in communication or a skill-deficit can get in the way, but too often the culprit is a lack of attention to what would feel good, or a difficulty turning what you notice into a tangible ask. It’s time we fix that.
Join Sarah and Willow for an interactive workshop with foundational practices to help you create experiences that are wanted, pleasurable, and driven by your present self.
In this 3.5-hour workshop, you’ll gain practical skills in:

• Noticing what would actually feel good for you (instead of what you *think* would or should feel good for you).
• Asking for what you want so that you’re more likely to get it.
• Sharing boundaries and limits to keep your experience feeling yummy.
• Being responsive to your partner's moment-to-moment experience.
• Minimizing common pitfalls in integrating these lessons into your play and life.

FAQs

FAQ: what should I bring?

Note-taking supplies, if you'd like

FAQ: what should I wear?

Whatever you'd like! Be comfortable. You will have the option to sit on a mat or on a chair. No nudity.

FAQ: any skill pre-requisites? (i.e., is this for beginners, advanced, everyone?)

This class is for all.

FAQ: can I attend solo, or do I need to come with a partner?

You can attend solo or with others. Please note that you will be invited to participate in exercises with different people throughout the class.

About Your Instructors

Sarah is a pleasure-focused consent educator improving the way we approach sexual and interpersonal communication. Follow Sarah at @notcomprehensiveconsent. Willow is a harm reductionist who works to create a culture of consent that prevents domestic abuse and boundary breaches, optimizes pleasure, and empowers all.

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✨Location: Lower Manhattan. The space has an elevator. Please email [email protected] if you need any accessibility accommodations.

✨Full vaccination is required. While we recommend getting the booster shots, we are not verifying them at this time.

✨Consent Policy: All of our events are ASK FIRST events. The rules of respectful and consensual behavior WILL be enforced. You will be responsible for reading our consent policy and behaving appropriately. Read our consent policy in full: https://www.hitmeupnyc.com/consent

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120 Walker St floor 5, 120 Walker Street, New York, United States