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The Original Purpose of God for Marriage Text: Genesis 1: 26-28, Genesis 2: 18-25, Ephesians 5:21-33
Marriage is God's idea and it began in the garden of Eden as God's gift to humanity. This whole arrangement was interrupted by sin which now pushes man into incessant divorce over little mistake from spouses, the end result is disunity against the unity God intended for families.
God's divine purpose of marriage is for :
- Companionship Gen2:18 that's why friendship in marriage is as important as love.
- Purposeful partnership Gen1:26-28, Genesis 2:15. Spouses ought to labor in God's work, pursuing the same goal to advance God's kingdom.
Fruitfulness and family Genesis 1: 28. God designed marriage as a safe haven to raise godly children Mal.2:15
- Intimacy and Oneness Genesis 2: 24 for emotional and spiritual unity
- Reflecting on God's covenant love Ephesians 5: 25-32 where marriage Christ love and faithfulness and the church
Sometimes all of these can be destroyed by some members of the extended families like in the case of Mr. And Mrs. Ade who got married in a beautiful church wedding. In the first year, the hubby's extended family visit regularly and unannounced. His mother continually criticized the wife's cooking and housekeeping, comparing the wife with her own daughter. Some of his siblings would borrow money directly from the husband without the wife's knowledge. Whenever the wife raises concerns, the hubby would defend his family and dismiss her feelings. Slowly, resentment grew, communication broke down, and trust weakened. What began as a joyful union started showing cracks, not because the couple didn't love each other, but because third-party interference was never addressed.
According to Genesis 2:24 a man must "leave his father and mother and be united to his wife." Here, leaving does not mean to abandon but rather to set boundaries to allow your marriage to stand on its own foundation. If you allow your extended family to over step in, they will break the unity between you and your wife and distorts God's plan.
For you to secure God's purpose in marriage, you must do the following:
1. Prioritise your spouse Matthew 19:6 "what God has joined together, let no one separate."
2. Set healthy boundaries with family by being kind but firm.
3. Let there be open communication by discussing issues privately and with respect.
4. Pray together: this action keeps God at the centre.
Be watchful because the devil is roaming about looking for whom to devour. By this he sometimes uses well-meaning family members to achieve his purpose of breaking that unity. Don't allow him use you as a prey like Judas Iscariot who after Jesus warned him, he didn't listen, he still went ahead to allow the devil victimized him, at the end, he lost his peace, his place in God's kingdom, he regretted his actions wrote himself off hence he could not ask for forgiveness, he hung himself and died, the golden rule says do unto others that which you want them to do unto you, this message goes to everyone in every facets of life, do not create discord among the brethren and beware of all forms of evil (lying, stealing, living a pretentious life, greed, selfishness, etc). It can destroy you forever
Marriage is God's foundation for family and family is the foundation for society. God wanted us to begin with unity, love, and partnership to fulfill His purpose on earth that's why if you observe very well you will agree with me that God made marriage the very first institution before the church or government, therefore, the family unit is built on marriage as a place where values, faith, and godly character are first taught, this is to strengthen the society, so please brethren, let's keep our personal opinion aside and allow marriage to strive against the plan of the devil. Honour your parents through respect, care, and support (Exodus 20:12) while still "leaving and cleaving" in obedience to God's command. Genesis 2:24, set clear but loving boundaries with parents and extended family such as agreeing together before making major decisions or sharing private matters, sensitive marital issues should be kept between husband and wife, not running to parents first or depending on your parents judgement to use against your spouse instead of asking God for WISDOM where you are confused. God gave man the responsibility of godhead, depend on God to help you out in all things because man's judgement may be biased based on personal reasons, include your parents in your celebrations and visits, but do not allow them to control the marriage.
Husband set your boundaries early and make it clear that your wife is your priority, wife, express your concerns calmly to avoid insults toward your husband's family so it's easier for your husband to listen, spouses should present a united front by praying together for wisdom and favor with family members, schedule family visits together to avoid unannounced arrivals that disrupt privacy, seek pastoral or counsellor guidance before resentment builds up
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