BHS/Q-MoB LGBTQ Aging Well Pride Potluck/Learning Lab (Grt. Barrington, MA)

As part of an 8 part Pride Aging Well Series, Q-MoB is pleased to be co-sponsoring this 6/29 LGBTQ+ Aging Wel Pride Potluck Brunch & Learning Lab with Berkshire Health Systems in a wonderful outdoor tent at Fairview Hospital. The purpose of this potluck brunch and learning lab is to help LGBTQ+ people learn practical strategies for managing the inevitable aging changes and challenges that come in 1) Health Hacks & Healthy Habits, 2) Relationships & Building a Chosen Family & Aging Well Team, 3) Creating a home you can age well in financially & structurally, 4) Managing Financial Risks & Abundance on a fixed income, including finding health insurance you can afford & that protects you from your biggest risks. In this Learning Lab, BHS will also review some important changes they are making in how they collect data on the needs and care of patients based on their gender identity and sexual orientation and get feedback from the community about these planned changes in data collection.

PRESENTERS:

• Maureen Daniels, BHS Director Of Wellness & a Certified Wellness Coach
• Doreen Hutchinson, VP, Patient Care Fairview Hospital
• Catherine Record, Certified Health Insurance Application Counselor, BHS Advocacy for Access
• Bart Church, Interim Director, Q-Mob of the Berkshires & Designer of the 8 part LGBTQ+ Pride Aging Well Collaborative Learning Sessions
  WHAT TO BRING:
• Bring a brunch dish & summer beverage(s) to share with about 6 other people.
• Please make a small sign for your dish that discloses if it contains any of these common allergens/restrictions: dairy, gluten, eggs, meat/chicken/fish, nuts/peanuts, MSG, preservatives, food colors, alcohol, caffeine, sugar, soy, vegan, vegetarian, paleo, etc.

OTHER LGBTQ+ AGING WELL COLLABORATIVE LEARNING JUNE SESSIONS (click on the links to learn more about each):
: Creating Healthy Habits for Eating, Exercising, Sleeping, & Mindfulness

: building your chosen family & Aging Well Team

: fostering intergenerational home-sharing & making your home safe & sustainable for aging

: creating abundance on a fixed income, managing financial risks associated with aging (including understanding health insurance options)
QUEER MEN’S AGING WELL PEER SUPPORT GROUP

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Queer men 40 & up design an on-going peer support group to help one another gracefully negotiate the inevitable changes that come in: 1) Relationships, 2) Health, 3) Housing, 4) Financial Resources and Risks. 5) Spirituality, 6) Service/Work.

ABOUT THE AGING WELL SERIES: This series is designed to connect you with LGBTQ people and experts/allies in your area who want to support one another in continuing to learn and teach what works well in LGBTQ+ Aging. We will create on-going Aging Well Study & Action Groups that focus either on one of these 4 topics, or take a more wholistic approach and study and experiment with all 4 issues. The impotant thing is to find a group of LGBTQ people who live near you to gather regularly to study what works, experiment with what might work, and then support one another in sustaining those healthy habits and, most importantly, teaching what works to othe LGBTQ people who want to study & learn together. We ask each person in these groups to take turns being a student and a teacher, and a coach and a team player.

STARTLING DATA ON THE COMING LGBTQ+ AGING CRISIS: Here is some startling data from the largest study ever done on LGBTQ+ seniors that underscores the aging crisis many LGBTQ seniors are facing, and also shows how powerful the Boomers and Gen X have been in collaborating to fight AIDS and government inaction on AIDS and in building a powerful network of action and support that saved millions of lives. The coming health, social, & economic crisis LGBTQ seniors are facing is just the next in a long line of challenges the queer community has faced and overcome by coming together to learn and take action together:

• More than 3 million LGBTQ adults over age 50 live in the U.S. – and more than half of them feel isolated from others and 59 percent report feeling a lack of companionship. This population is set to grow to about 7 million by 2030 (6 years from now). The LGBTQ senior population in the Berkshires is growing even faster because of COVID migrations from the big cities.

• 7 out of 10 LGBT older adults live alone as compared to 3 out of 10 heterosexual older adults. The social isolation of living alone, compounded by the fears of allowing homecare, chore-service, and other lay and professional staff into one’s home create a significant barrier for care. LGBT older adults often feel they have no one to call in times of need.

• 9 out of 10 LGBT older adults have no children to help care for them as compared to 2 out of 10 heterosexual older adults. Furthermore, LGBT older adults have often been ostracized from an extended network of family members based on their sexual orientation or gender identity. LGBT older adults tend to form extended friend networks or “chosen families” that they rely on to help care for them at times of need. Unlike heterosexual family structures that are intergenerational, chosen families tend to be comprised of peers who are, as they age, facing the same care challenges.

• LGBT older adults are nearly 3 times as likely to live in poverty as heterosexual older adults, and to have lower lifetime incomes and retirement incomes.

HELP BUILD DIVERSITY: Data shows that the more diverse our aging well team is the more resilient and and creative it will be. In other words if you study and learn about aging well with LGBTQ people of all ages, races, backgrounds, education levels, skills, and expertise, you are much more likely to find solutions and then have the team to implement them. Please invite as diverse a group of LGBTQ friends and acquaintances as you can to join us in these sessions and in studying and practicing aging well in a collaborative learning group. The trap many of us fall into is all our friends are the same age as we are and they all have the same challenges, the same resources, and we complain about the same things -- and therefore are not nearly as creative & resilient as more diverse LGBTQ groups. Our ability to thrive depends on building intergenerational teams that learn and practice aging well together.

THE COMING LGBTQ YOUTH/YOUNG ADULT HEALTH CRISIS: This is particularly important because recent studies show that LGBTQ people in their teens & 20s are the least active and most chronically ill generation in modern history, so they need aging well help as much or more than their elders. Here are some frightening statistics about how queer youth are struggling with unprecedented levels of isolation and the physical and mental health challenges that come with it:

• In 2021, 69% of LGBQ+* youth reported feeling persistently sad and hopeless. For heterosexual youth, that figure was 35%, according to the CDC
• During the pandemic, LGBQ+ high school students were about 4 times more likely to attempt suicide than their heterosexual peers, accordig to the CDC.
• 41% of LGBTQ young people seriously considered attempting suicide in the past year—and young people who are transgender, nonbinary, and/or people of color reported higher rates than their peers. These are the highest rates ever seen since surveying began, according to the Trevor Project.
• 67% of LGBTQ young people reported experiencing symptoms of anxiety, according to the Trevor Project
• 54% of LGBTQ young people reported experiencing symptoms of depression
• 60% of LGBTQ young people reported that they have felt discriminated against in the past year due to their sexual orientation or gender identity.
• Although the pandemic made these disparities worse, they have been persistent over time and many of them are worsening rapidly as a record number of anti-gay laws are proposed and passed across the country, and more and more LGBTQ young people and elders spend ever greater numbers of hours online and becoming more & more isolated, according to the Trevor Project.

CARPOOLING/RIDE-SHARE: If you need a ride or are open to carpooling, please indicate that when you are registering, & our ride coordinator will try to match you with people nearby who are interested in carpooling or offering rides. We encourage carpooling because it is a great way to make new friends, save money on gas, reduce your carbon footprint, and have a designated driver should you want to drink and not drive.

OR : Please donate $5-$20 to help assure Q-MoB can continue to offer more than 25 activities & multiple resources & services to rural queer men all over the region. If you attend 2 or more Q-MoB events/month, please consider becoming a monthly sustaining donor member. By donating $25, $50, $75, or $100/month you can help to sustain the incredible variety of activities, services, and resources Q-MoB provides and assure all of these activities are accessible to men regardless of their age, income, or ability, and best of all you can avoid having to donate at each and every event you attend. Monthly Sustaining Members pay only once a month and then can attend all our activities with no further donation.

REACHING US THE DAY OF THE EVENT: If the day of the event you cannot join us, have trouble finding the group, or will be late, please text one of the Co-Hosts: Bart at 503-734-6508 or Andy at 339-221-3051.

Event Venue & Nearby Stays

Fairview Hospital, 29 Lewis Avenue, Great Barrington, United States