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On my beautiful Barry’s 40th year we had planned a massive adventure. My intention had been to follow through on a huge trip and surprise Barry, and I’d started to plan in 2022, the year before we lost him.
It is cruel and painful, that Barry is not here for those dreams to become reality.
It is too much to bear.
I grieve him. And I grieve our plans. I grieve the things we wanted and planned but that can no longer come to fruition. I grieve them for me. I grieve them for him. I grieve them for his children.
He should be here.
We cannot begin to lessen our pain, nor our trauma, and we cannot stop our weeping, no matter what.
There is nothing. Only him. Who could make anything, better.
Therefore, there is no better. Better does not exist.
There are only the findings and the discoveries, of ways to cope.
But what we will do, what we aspire to do, and what I will do for his sons, is celebrate Barry.
Celebrate Barry like there is no tomorrow for any of us.
Celebrate him in ways that create hope, and define what it means to be loved, to give love and to share love.
Barry Martin Day is every single day for Oliver, Daniel and I.
Barry Martin Day was every single day he was here.
He was told everyday, that he was loved.
He was told everyday, how my adoration only grew for him with every year he became older.
From a teenager, to a young adult, to the most responsible, educated, ambitious, loving, respectful, and conscientious man I have ever had the privilege to not only meet and have love me, but to be with every single day and to love upon him all the time.
Those memories flood me and floor me.
Often when I am driving alone, I think of him, and of us.
I think of how we held hands when he drove and used to curse the gear stick because it meant letting go. How we talked about life. How we loved to hash out our dreams and our goals and congratulate one another on our achievements. Sometimes small successes and sometimes big ones.
My god how I miss him.
I miss him so much.
Barry Martin Day this year will be on Saturday 27th July.
This is a few weeks prior to Barry’s 40th birthday, as we wished to do this in line with the football season.
We welcome everyone, to Pitreavie Sports and Soccer Centre on this day from 12pm to 4pm, to celebrate, our incredible and sensational Barry.
Here we will unveil a bench in Barry’s memory which will remain permanently on the grounds. We will talk about him. We will talk about his Foundation. We will share his magic, with his community, and his friends.
Children will play. There are so many things arranged for their enjoyment. We will bring Barrys sweeties, a table selection of his favourites, there will be a fantastic DJ, birthday cake, Barrys memory table, face painting, and donations will be accepted on the day for The Barry Martin Foundation. The buckets will be ready for any pennies you may have, but entry to the day and activities is free, and we wish for Barry’s community to be there.
We have worked incredibly hard to pull this together and we thank The Pars Foundation, not just for this special day, but for all of their support and care since our wonderful man died.
As always, when I am asked, how I do this, and how I find the strength, my answer is that, I wish I could pull you into my memories. Head first like Alice down the rabbit hole.
There you would understand.
I think it would fill hearts, and you would just know why…
I have to share this.
I have to spread this.
It is extraordinary.
He is extraordinary.
What we had, and what he leaves here.
Is extraordinary.
I hope you can join us on this beautiful day. I hope you can bring your family.
You are so incredibly welcome.
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Share far and wide.
And come to be with us on this special day. 💙
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Event Venue & Nearby Stays
Pitreavie Sport & Soccer Centre, Queensferry Road,Dunfermline, Fife, United Kingdom
